They taught us in Home Economics that we should always measure dry ingredients with a dry measure and liquids need a liquid measuring cup. You wouldn't measure your inseam with a surveyor's transit, and you wouldn't try to measure the distance from New York to Los Angeles using your dressmaker's seam gauge.
So why do we try to measure our lives and selves by using the wrong kind of measure? You can't measure your marriage by reading a bodice-ripping novel. You can't measure your own beauty by looking at Victoria's Secret catalogs.
My friend has lost over 100 pounds, but when she looks in the mirror, she can't see it. She is still measuring her reflection with the negative self-opinion she formed 100 pounds ago.
I often find myself feeling intimidated by the brilliant women I talk to at our corporate office. They are college-educated, extremely intelligent and high-powered people. I have to remind myself that I don't have to be playing on the same court to be a talented athlete in my own right.
If you want to come to an honest, realistic and appropriate assessment of your life, your looks, your relationships and your job, you have to learn which measure to use.
Use the right measure for all things.
Measure joy and love by the warmth that fills your heart. Measure people by their intentions and their heart. Measure love by how much of it you can give. Measure success by your contentment. Measure your job by the comforts it provides for you, such as a warm house and a full belly.
Stop using your bank account, or a comparison to someone else's finances, as a measure. Money? It's really no measure at all.